Monday, November 1, 2010

I love surprises.

Dealing with a son with AS really beats you out sometimes.  Some days I come home from work and ask him how his day went and he'd say something like : "Normal. Mama, I don't want to talk about it, if that's ok."  That, coupled with a somber look on his face.  I just know that someone at school made fun of him for behaving in a weird way. Or he went berserk because he got frustrated over some little thing at school that ticked him off. Those times I feel totally useless and worthless to him. That really sucks.

BUT there are days when he surprises me.  Just last week, he asks me: Mama, how do you make friends?  I ask him about who it is he wanted to be friends with and it turns out to be a neuro-typical girl in school who likes Pokemon just as much as he does. I was so excited, I rambled on and on about how to make a good impression, how to find the right timing to approach her and talk about stuff. I've been there, done that, I know how to catch someones' attention.:) My son is growing up!

He also gets asked to go on "playdates" and sleepovers more often. He looks forward to these and actually tries to convince me that he's going to be ok.  That is a big step. Normally, he wouldn't care to spend time with friends. He'd much rather stay home and play alone. He's turning independent, slowly but surely. :)

One morning after a particularly long night at the office, I wake up to this on my mirror:

He never told me about joining the Quiz Bee! I didn't even see him preparing for anything remotely close to a contest. But this just blew my mind! I love surprises!

Sunday, October 24, 2010

Cool Sticks!


Who doesn't like ice cream? Well if you do know someone who doesn't appreciate one of man's best inventions, tell him he's  missing a lot.  Yummy, creamy, milky, flavorful, nutty, sweet, chocolatey, fruity, delectable dessert no one can deny. 

One of my latest discoveries in Trinoma mall:StickHouse.  I've seen it around but never had the chance to try it until now. And boy I was in for a treat! 

 They come in Regular, Premium, and Sorbet flavors. Regular flavors priced P70 are: Milk Cream, Gandua, and Chocolate. Premium Flavors priced at P80 are Pistachio (my favorite!) and Coffee. Sorbet flavors  priced at P60 are Strawberry and Mango.

You can choose from a variety of toppings (full - P25, half - P15)such as almonds, pistachios, coffee, and hazelnuts. You can go for milk chocolate or white chocolate dip for an additional P25.

The taste is very different from the Magnolia or Selecta flavor we're all used to. It carries a distinct flavor of powdered milk, at least for the pistachio bar I go for myself.
 Do give them a try at Level 1, 2, and 4 of the Trinoma mall. There's surely a new personal favorite waiting for you.
Pistachio bar with chocolate drizzle and pistachios

Cool Sticks

Saturday, October 23, 2010

Tsk! Tsk!

I've always been lampa (clumsy). Growing up, I remember coming home from school with cuts, scrapes, and bruises regularly.

Now that I'm all grown, I am very much conscious of the way I walk, go down the steps, and run. I'm flat-footed too, which doesn't at all help with balancing issues. 

BUT, this particular mishap happened while I was quietly strolling in our community bazaar. I was simply looking for something to buy for lunch  and boom!
I tripped and on the way down heard a crunch and I knew right then that I had torn something. The pain brought tears to my eyes. Luckily I was with Alice and Sky and they helped me hop back to our unit and conducted first aid: RICE - Rest, Ice, Compress, Elevate. (We looked this up online as we were panicking about what to do next.

Oh boy. Lesson learned: mind your footing while at a bazaar. You'll never know if your absentmindedness gets you into an accident!

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

I'm back!

I haven't blogged in a while because:
1. Work has overtaken most of my waking hours
2. There is no number 2. Just number 1.

But you know what? I realized that is no way to live. Man, it's just work, right? I should really learn to prioritize. Almost every night for the last 2 months, I said to myself  "I'll blog tonight." And everytime I'd go out, I'd take loads of pictures and say "I'll blog about this." But  never did. So here I am. And hopefully, I can keep this up. :)

Saturday, October 16, 2010

Yahoo for Yakimix!

 As my first post in months I thought this should be about something I've been excited about for weeks and so here it is: Yakimix!

We got there at &:30 pm and we had to wait 45 minutes to get a table. The staff was friendly and they gave us complimentary drinks: a choice between iced tea,  mango juice, and blue lemonade.

At P580 per head and P65 for bottomless drinks, who could resist such an offer?

Buffet's always excite me. Being presented with so many food choices, I feel a thrill of planning out how to navigate the buffet table properly to make sure I can get a taste of everything they have to offer without overstuffing myself. Plus, at every booth/table restaurant-goers have the option to fry their chosen meats and seafood to however they want.  Now that's what I call fun!

Here's a sampling of what you can cook on your own in the comfort of your own table. The Yakiniku fryer guaranteed no smoke, therefore you wouldn't smell like the food you just ate when you leave the restaurant. Hooray!
There's also something for those who prefer the cooked variety. :) Yummy too, if you ask me.
Overall, the experience was quite fun.  I suggest a trip to the salad bar, then the Japanese sushi and maki bar, then to the cooked Chinese food section, followed by the raw meats and seafood for cooking fun. Finally, the dessert bar which offered the following: flan, chocolates, cookies, cakes, jellos, maccaroons, and a huge freezer filled with Selecta popsicles and ice cream.

Try this out with your friends/family soon. Great food, friendly service, and good value for your buck. :)

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Learning more about Asperger's Syndrome

Today I have the flu.  I decided to stay in bed and rest as advised by my friends and family. BUT, as restless as I am, I turned on my laptop and searched for Asperger's documentaries to better understand my son K. You see, I have been struggling with him lately.  Unlike before, he's more withdrawn and would rather not share anything about what happened during the day.  He doesn't know it, but he hurts my feelings when he says : "I'd rather not talk about it". I know that the AS makes him blind to emotions because he simply doesn't recognize them, thus making emotions irrelevant. I find this hard to deal with but it's something I need to accept and work with everyday to prepare him for life.

Anyway, allow me to share with you a video I found on You Tube about a teenager with AS. Reuben is a lot like K, being very literal, the bullying, confusion in the supermarket, self-confidence issues. Among all the videos I've seen, this is the one I can relate to the most. And I hope that by sharing it with all of you, you can understand my K a lot better too.

A.A.A.D.D. - Help!

I really don't know if there is such as thing as Age Activated Attention Deficit Disorder, but I can relate to the following joke and it's making me worry a bit:

Age Activated Attention Deficit Disorder.

This is how it manifests:

I decide to water my garden.

As I turn on the hose in the driveway,
I look over at my car and decide it needs washing.

As I start toward the garage,

I notice mail on the porch table that
I brought up from the mail box earlier.

I decide to go through the mail before I wash the car.

I lay my car keys on the table,
put the junk mail in the garbage can under the table,
and notice that the can is full.

So I decide to put the bills
backon the table & take out the garbage first..
But then I think,
since I'm going to be near the mailbox
when I take out the garbage anyway,
I may as well pay the bills first.

I take my check book off the table,

and see that there is only one check left.
My extra checks are in my desk in the study,
so I go inside the house to my desk where
I find the
can of Pepsi I'd been drinking.

I'm going to look for my checks,

but first I need to push the Pepsi aside
so that I don't accidentally knock it over.
The Pepsi is getting warm

I decide to put it in the refrigerator to keep it cold..

As I head toward the kitchen with the Pepsi,
a vase of flowers on the counter
catches my eye..
They need water.

I put the Pepsi on the counter and
discover my reading glasses that
I've been searching for all morning.

I decide I better put them back on my desk,

but first I'm going to water the flowers.
I set the glasses back down on the counter,
fill a container with water and suddenly spot the TV remote
someone had
left it on the kitchen table..

I realize that tonight when we go to watch TV,

I'll be looking for
the remote,
but I won't remember that it's on the kitchen table,
so I decide to put it back in the den where it belongs.
But first I'll water the flowers.

I pour some water in the flowers
Quite a bit of it spills on the floor.
So, I set the remote back on the table,
get some towels and wipe up the spill.

Then I head down the hall trying to
remember what I was planning to do.

At the end of the day:
the car isn't washed
the bills aren't paid
there is a warm can of
Pepsi sitting on the counter
the flowers don't have enough water,
there is still only 1 check in my check book,
I can't find the remote,
I can't find my glasses,
and I don't remember what I did with the car keys.

Then, when I try to figure out why nothing got done,

I'm really baffled because I know I was busy all damn day,
and I'm really tired.

I realize this is a serious problem,

and I'll try to get some help for it,but first I'll check my e-mail....

Goodness... This happens to me a lot. So if any of you find the correct diagnosis for this, do let me know. :(

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

One Big Step for K!

I'm quite sure that for most 13 year olds, going to the mall, and hanging out with friends on the weekend is a normal activity. This isn't so for my son K. Having  Asperger's Syndrome (AS), K has difficulty socializing. He isn't an introvert or anti-social. He is simply incapable of recognizing and responding to verbal cues from others.  A couple of years ago,  buying his own burger and fries at McDonald's was enough to make him sweat nervously and clam up.  He needs to rehearse what he needs to say to the cashier before he gets in line to order. It takes him forever to muster up the courage to get in line.  Lately, I've been "training" him to buy the stuff that he wants so he has no choice but to do it.

I was excited and nervous when he told me that his good friend A invited him to go to the nearby mall and play network games. K, got down all the details of the "play date" and relayed them to me. I was happy that he finally had the urge to go out on his own for the first time, but I was a little sad that my boy was now turning into a little adult.  

Saturday finally arrived and noticeably, K woke up earlier than normal for a weekend. I could tell he was trying not to look to eager. When I dropped him off at Starbucks, A wasn't there yet and I was so uneasy. I gave him my last instructions: to keep his cellphone handy, to text me if they changed venue, to eat lunch, to keep his money in one place, to pay only for stuff he consumed, to make sure he got the correct change, to eat a healthy lunch, to look both ways before crossing the road, to practice his eye-contact with the cashiers...Gosh, the list would have went on if A hadn't arrived. And when he did, it was time for me to let him go. 

Things didn't go so well for me from 12:30nn till 3:00pm. I tried not to worry too much and just enjoy lunch and window shopping while waiting for him to text me to meet him and go home. He did text me when they left Starbucks to play games at Timezone, and he did text me when the had lunch at Mc Donald's, and He did text me when they were done eating and moved to Netopia to play online games. BUT I didn't hear from him after that.  And that's when I started freaking out. I called him and texted him, no answer, no reply. It was past his curfew so I decided to just go to Netopia and  pick him up. When I got there he was sitting in front of a computer with a HEADSET on. That explained it. 

Should have put the phone on vibrate...
K still has a long way to go. After his first day out alone, I realized I needed to give him a crash course on street-smartness. I have to admit,though I have my ideas on what real-life activities/scenarios I have to train him on, I'm not quite sure how to guarantee success. BUT,I will not stop trying until I can get him to buy his own burger steak without breaking a sweat.   

Friday, August 6, 2010

Green Sneakers at last!

I'd like to think that there is still something I can do to help save what's left of our dear old mother earth. I've been bringing my own shopping bag to the grocery and refusing plastic bags when I buy something from the nearest convenience store. I have been trying to reduce my use of drinking straws as much as I can (speaking of which, can't someone invent reusable ones already?) and just recently got myself a pair of green shoes. Yes, they are literally and figuratively speaking, GREEN.

Enter Simple Shoes, the first biodegradable shoes I've encountered so far here in the Ph. I was going to buy a new pair anyway and the designs were interesting so I decided to try some.

The soles of these shoes are made from the recycled rubber of tires and the laces are made from PET bottles. They use HEMP  to make the body of the sneakers (no, I did not attempt to light up my shoes) because it is one of the strongest and most breathable fibers available and apparently one of the easiest and fastest products to grow in different climates.

These shoes were made with Eco-Pure, a substance that helps the biodegradation process in usually non-biodegradable products,making what usually takes 1000 years to decompose in a landfill take only about 20 years.

 I admit the impulse buyer in me was quite fascinated by the novelty of biodegradable shoes and I'm sure that it's all part of a marketing strategy, that I finally gave in after trying on my first pair. I still have to get used to it though. The insoles are cushioned that makes it comfortable initially, although my ankles are complaining  from the constant brushing from the sides.Maybe my ankles are too big, maybe I should've gotten a pair of Hi-cuts,but over-all at price a little over than your basic chucks but less than nike frees, I'm happy with my green sneakers. I could wear them everyday. :)

Tuesday, August 3, 2010


The Recto Train
A and the LRT Ticket
I've lived in Metro Manila all my life and never been to Ongpin. Shame on me, I know. I just never had any time (or interested friends to go with) until now. So, one Saturday, Alice, Oh, Rhy and I decided to go on an Ongpin food adventure. We took the LRT 2 from Cubao to Recto. You can go through Gateway Mall from the MRT (the one that goes through EDSA) to get to the LRT 2. 

The four of us met up at the Isetann Mall close to the Recto stration and got on the jeep going to Divisoria (P7.00) and got off at the Aranque Market entrance. From here we could easily navigate through the Binondo Food Wok Map which I borrowed from my officemate Kat and find our way into the heart of Ongpin.
Thanks to my dear officemate Kat, we had a Binondo Food Wok Map to help us through to get to the heart of Ongpin.

Sights, sounds, and smells of Ongpin!
The streets were narrow, traffic everywhere, the heat was really on! But we happily strolled through it knowing that good food and unusual wares were ahead of us. Here are some of he few things we chanced on:
Entrance to Chinatown fronting the Sta. Cruz church
Luscious red cherries which I couldn't help buying for myself
Grapefruits, nectarines, peaches, and pomengrantes
Ube inspired firetruck c/o Mr. Eng Bee Tin

Chinese knick knacks everywhere
Food Trip starts now!
All the interesting sights were amusing but we were getting hungry. It was lunch time and we have yet to try the most recommended restaurant (by my friends, that is) Sincerity - famous for it's fried chicken.Yum!
Crispy on the outside, tender and juicy on the inside. 

Modest facade, scrumptuous food!
So much food so little time! - Shang Hai food store...
...where they sell delicious fried siopao, fresh from the pan!
 We walked around some more, and visited the Binondo church...

After saying a prayer, we sought the ever-famous Eng -Bee-Tin store.  We just had to buy delicious ube and monggo hopia, tofu chips, haw flakes, and everything else! Eng-Bee-Tin is located in the heart of Ongpin across the Binondo church.

So many choices!
It wasn't a surprise that we got hungry all over again seeing all the food stalls and restaurants we passed.  It was hot  out and we decided to get a cooler.  We chanced on Rosso Cafe' located at Sabino Padilla St., known for its specialty shakes and iced drinks. 
From left: Banana-Coffee, Strawberry, Banana, and Mango shake! Best of all, free wifi!
But, the cold drinks left my good friend Alice wanting.  Luckily for her, just across the street was Ang Tunay na Beef House.  We were all game to try eating something new,  so we went in.  And we weren't disappointed:
Delicious beef noodles from Ang Tunay na Beef  House!
Oh and Rhy couldn't help but order another serving of yummy siomai. Best of all, the hot tea was free. :)
 After stuffing ourselves with the sights, smells, and tastes of Ongpin we decided that one day wasn't enough to get a fill of what it had to offer. Binondo gets 5 stars from me!

Saturday, July 24, 2010

No more Messy with Bessy!

Thanks to a Samsung event I attended for work, I got to try some variants of the Messy Bessy line. If you aren't familiar with the brand yet, Messy Bessy manufactures home cleaning products which are all non-toxic and environment friendly.  They are available in selected supermarkets nationwide at reasonable prices.

The Samsung organizers launched their new microwave, french door refrigerator, and front load washing machine. I was  hoping to win the raffle and take home a neat home appliance but I wasn't at all disappointed when they handed me the Messy Bessy gift pack. 

I tried the all-purpose cleanser on my bathroom sink. It had a pleasant eucalyptic scent which I love! The texture is quite grainy which worked like a scrub on its own. Like Axion.

Another favorite is the Minty Orange Surface Cleaner. You know how when you're cooking and you mess up your kitchen counter WHILE you're cooking and need to clean up as your cooking? This is the perfect solution. Since its non-toxic, you can spray and wipe whenever you feel like it without worrying about being poisoned. :)

I highly recommend this for anyone who wants to turn to green living in the simplest ways. In small ways, we can help make the world a better place. :)

Thursday, July 22, 2010


Given my association with the world-renowned Philippine Madrigal Singers, people naturally ask whether my son K also likes to sing. You know, I believe I haven't heard him sing more than 10 times in his entire life.

K reacts to music. That manifested when he was about 3 years old and we were on a taxi home and the radio was playing "I never had a dream come true". All of a sudden I heard sniffling. K was crying! I asked him, "What's wrong?" He just shrugged and buried his head into my lap. When the music stopped, he explained that "the music made me cry".  Another instance was at the end of the first Harry Potter movie, he begged me to stay and finish the end credits. I asked him what he was waiting to see on the screen. He said he wanted to finish the music. I noticed that since then, he prefers soundtrack or theme music than songs with lyrics. However, K would occasionally grant us a song or two when we had our Magic Mic moments, but not happily.  

Anyway, I was lucky enough to catch him still awake when  got home one night and he told me that he had an oral quiz in solfeggio (reading music).  He appeared nervous about it so I decided to help him out (Actually, I was more excited to teach him, that's the truth).

There were three pieces and he had to sing the notes with the tune and not the actual words. They were: Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star, Sakura, and El Coqui. I said to myself: this was a piece of cake. "Do-do-sol-sol-la-la-sol..." We studied the first song quickly. When we got to the 2nd song, I was struggling a bit with the third (as I always have) and in the short pauses while I was figuring out the tune, I heard K humming the correct one softly.  I asked him: "Do you know this already?" He goes: "Yeah, kinda." So I said, "Sige nga (Alright) sing it." And he did. Perfectly.

I felt so proud at that moment. For many moms, their kids singing and dancing talents may be nothing new. But for me, this was really special. I felt even prouder when I found out the next day that he got one of the highest grades in class. :) One more step for K! Hurray!

Sunday, July 18, 2010

My momma always says...

When I was younger, I found out I was allergic to crustaceans when I had a small bite of crab meat and my face blew up, my heart raced and I couldn't breathe.  Since then, I never touched crab and I bring along an antihistamine in my wallet for emergencies. People tell me that I can overcome my allergies by eating a bit of it every chance I get. I haven't been lucky with crab yet, but I believe I am totally over shrimp. I try to limit myself to jut 5 pieces of shrimp per meal. BUT when my friend A and I go out for shrimp at Bubba Gump, I most certainly will eat a lot more than 5.

To order a Bubba Gump, customers have to flip the sign on each table to say: Stop Forrest, Stop. This way, servers will know that you need something from them and have no excuse not to pay any attention to you.  Once you've given them your order, you can flip the sign back to Run Forrest, Run.

A and I had shrimp in mind so we ordered the Shrimper's Net Catch (P699)which was a pound of steamed, cajun flavored shrimp served with veggies, corn on the cob and potatoes. 

Yummy!  I had a glass of water while A had the Frozen Lemon-up(forgot the price). A said that the Lemon up was non-alcoholic and was just right: not to sweet and not too sour.

The service was great. The place was crowded and accidents could easily happen. But they've got it covered. I observed that every time they turn a corner or emerge from the kitchen bearing huge platters of food, they cry "Corner!" This way, anyone headed the same way can watch out for whoever was coming. Simple but effective, huh? 

I believe I never ate so much shrimp in one sitting and in under an hour. They flavored the shrimp just right that once you start, you can't stop. 4 out of 5 stars for me. :)

Luckily, I didn't need any antihistamine after that. I'll just save that pill for when I try crab at the Red Crab soon!

Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Great medicine, good food.

Normally, going to the hospital is my least favorite activity.  I usually expect to wait for hours for my turn to get a consultation from the doctor assigned by the company HMO. Well, that was the case for this particular visit. I had to do a 12 hour fast for my blood test at the Makati Medical Center, so I went at 7:30am so that I can have breakfast early as well. 

I looked around the newly renovated MMC and found some familiar food stalls: Pizza Hut, Burger King, Dairy Queen, Seattle's Best and Mary Grace. However, I was really looking for, you know, BREAKFAST. So I asked the guard and he recommended the Floating Island which served all kinds of meals.

Situated on the 3rd level of the MMC, it greets you with an aroma of Lavazza, a brand of coffee I first had the chance to taste while in Italy with my host family from Mel, in the province of Belluno.  Immediately, I decided, this is it!

The staff seemed attentive and friendly and gave us the menus right away. I ordered the Beef Tapa (P205 Beef slices with fried rice and 2 eggs) 

and my friend A ordered the American Breakfast (P175 Hash Brown, 2 sausages and eggs-no bread)

and we both had the Lavazza  brewed coffee for P70 each.

The beef tapa - delicious! The atchara (pickled horseradish) was a perfect side dish.

The American Breakfast - filling and good value for money, although there should have been bread to go with the sausage, and maybe another hash brown.

The Lavazza coffee - perfect. good value for money and great brewed coffee.

The service - ok. My friend asked to have her eggs scrambled and they served it sunny side up. Serving time was fast since there weren't too many people. And we were lucky the manager was there so she was always on the lookout for customer's requests.
Ambience - It's nice to have a place like this to hang out in while you're in a hospital. It makes you forget about those horror stories about hospital food too.

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

Getting to know the induction cooker

Out of necessity and fear of being helpless (and foodless) once the gas runs out, I decided to get an induction cooker. An induction cooker cooks/heats food faster and is more energy efficient only because you are supposed to finish cooking meals faster than over a fire. The induction cooker only works with any stainless pot or pan. If you place any other cookery with it, it simply won't heat/cook the food . The price for an induction cooker ranges from as low as P1,000 to P15,000. I got my Hanabishi induction cooker for P2,300 at Automatic Center in Cubao (Quezon City, Philippines). It came with a free stainless steel pan so it was ready to be used in case of emergency.

The day finally came when I ran out of gas while in the middle of preparing our breakfast (thank God it was a weekend!). I took out the manual, skimmed through it and was eager to start. I put some oil in the pan, since the manual said "never put an empty pot on the stove", placed it on top of the heating plate and pressed the ON button.

In a matter of SECONDS the oil was sizzling...but the pan was browning TOO! I panicked and turned it off. I guess, oil in the pan wasn't enough.
So take two: I put oil in the pan, put the garlic in and pressed the ON button again. I adjusted the heat to low and Viola! I was cooking! I had the fried rice and hot dogs cooked in under 10 minutes.
Induction cooker, you passed my test. It's great for emergencies and people living in small spaces. It's energy efficient and time saving as well. I do recommend you get one!

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

First Day Blues

A lot of parents know this: the first day of school can get a little crazy. For my son K, it was just that.

All throughout the week he had been wondering which class he'd belong to and who his class adviser would be. So when I told him that he'd be in the same class and under the same teacher, he was pacified. You see, people with Asperger's Syndrome need to be aware of their schedule for the next day. If changes occur unpredictably, it would be very devastating for them.

We started the first day of school morning like we had during the school year before: we woke up at 5, I cooked breakfast and prepared his lunch while he got ready for school. We chat for a few minutes during breakfast, he brushes his teeth and goes downstairs to wait for the school bus. Everything went smoothly and I was assured that he was ok until his teacher sent me an SMS saying that he had been transferred to a more mainstream class. I knew I should be ecstatic. I had been excited for the day when his teachers would deem him worthy of transferring to a more advanced class. But no. I was so worried about how he would cope with the sudden change in his environment/plans/classmates/teachers/subjects and so on.

So, as soon as I got home I asked him how his day went. He said: "It's a LOT DIFFERENT!" And I could tell that he didn't have a good day. When I asked him if he liked his old class better, he pulled a weird face and then tears were running down his face. I asked him why he was crying and he said: "It's automatic." I truly believe he can't understand where all the emotion was coming from but I knew it all stemmed from the fact that he went through a most devastatingly unpredictable day and he couldn't do anything about it or express how he truly felt.

This really broke my heart. I know he's bound to encounter more events like the one he endured today. And I won't be there to hold his hand or tell him that everything's going to be alright everytime this happens. But I know that I'm going to do whatever it takes to prepare him for such situations and I'll try to teach him that change is something we all will experience as we all grow older.

Sunday, June 13, 2010

The most important things I have to remember by heart

Some will say that giving birth to and living with a child with Asperger's Syndrome is a curse. Imagine teaching someone how to look at people in the eye, or, how to crack a simple joke, better yet, understand one. Or think of how you can work on conjuring an "acceptable" smile, or teaching him how to pause between sentences as "normal" people would. Let me tell you, it's hard. Most parents are concerned with their child's bad behavior, worrying about peer pressure, or being too independent, too early. Parents of kids with AS worry about totally different things.

I've consulted several books on how to understand, help, and live harmoniously with my child who has AS. The books all helped but I believe the best way to go about it is to listen, observe, and remember. You have to listen to him and try to "get" him. He doesn't talk like other normal/neuro-typical people. He talks like he was reading off an encyclopedia in a monotonous voice which makes it difficult to appear interested in whatever he's saying. You also have to observe him and see what ticks him off, what excites him and what calms him down. It may be sights, sounds, smells or textures which gets him ticked off. He may be excited about a certain activity, person, video game or toy. A mother's job is to remember by heart all these things so it can be avoided, dampened or enhanced.

One entry about this is really too short. To better understand what my son is like let me quote a part of one book I'm reading right now: THE ASPERGER'S ANSWER BOOK by Susan Ashley PH.D.

What your child with Asperger's Syndrome wants you to know: (Part 1)
  • I may overreact for no apparent reason, but usually I have a reason, I just can't say yet.
  • Just because I was able to control myself for several days doesn't mean I can today
  • I don't misbehave on purpose, and I am not trying to defy or annoy you
  • Don't expect me to be smart in every subject just because I have a great vocabulary
  • Please don't tell me to "work it out" with my classmates, I have no idea how to do that
  • I love to talk and do not know when to stop. Gently remind me to "hold that thought."
  • I am at my best when every day goes predictably. Please try to have a routine in class.
  • Please warn me in advance of upcoming changes since I do not cope well with change.
  • Keep a close eye on me in group activities because I do not do well in groups
  • I am slow to respond if you ask me a question so please give me time to answer
  • My brain does not work well when I am interrupted. I usually insist on starting over again.
  • Please do not insist that I look you in the eye. I am very uncomfortable with eye contact.
  • I don't understand jokes or sarcasm so you might have to explain them to me.
  • Even though nothing anyone does can cure me, I need your support every day, all year.
It's a 24/7 job, and I'm happy to be doing it, for him. He's a wonderful person. Compassionate, sensitive, and loving. It's unfortunate that not everyone who crosses his path will understand him. But, I'm excited for the few who will get to know him and realize what a good person he truly is. And for that I'm truly blessed.

Saturday, June 12, 2010

Bravissimo, Gelatissimo!

I make it a point to go out and treat myself to something nice every Friday night. Be it a movie, eating at a new restaurant, buying my favorite magazine, or shopping for simple toiletries, it makes me feel like I'm doing something nice for myself and I deserve it after a hectic week at the office.

Last Friday, my friend and I decided to treat ourselves to something sweet. It was something we rarely did as we are always on a diet and are very conscious about the calories we take in. However when we passed by Gelatissimo in Greenbelt 5, we just had to give it a try.

Gelatissimo, Greenbelt 5

Stepping inside, you will be confronted with an array of flavors which can be quite overwhelming. You can ask to taste any flavor before making your choice. You pay for it at the counter: P110 - 1 scoop/flavor in a cup. You can also choose to have your gelato in a cone (I'm not sure how much more you have to pay, but it isn't too expensive ). You can opt to take it out or stay inside the store and enjoy your gelato sitting down. Anyway, we tried the Chocolate Truffle and the Mint Chocolate flavors. And boy, was it good! I'll be sure to visit Gelatissimo on my next cheat day!

Chocolate Truffle & Mint Chocolate Yum!